Hello all you Valentine’s Day love birds. When you met your significant other was it "love at first sight?" Do you believe that just by seeing someone, you could fall in love with them? I personally do not believe in this silly saying at all. I do believe that there is such thing as “lust at first sight” when you feel chemistry with a person right away which will lead you to continue to pursue them. Far too often the media tries to sell us the message that this lust or chemistry that we may feel towards another person when first meeting is actually love.
Think of Britney Spear’s “Fantasy” perfume commercial, or The Notebook with Noah towards Ali. Even as little boys and girls we are programmed to believe in this kind of love, just watch our beloved Disney movies like The Little Mermaid when Aril first sees Prince Eric, or in Alden when he first sees Jasmine. But let’s be honest with each other, how can it be love when those characters haven’t even shared words?! Is the media really saying that love is only skin deep or if you don’t feel a connection to a person with a first glance it will never work? Think of how many couples would not be together if that really were the case, maybe one of those couples would even be and your lover!? The media should really consider changing their view of "love at first sight" and change it to what it really is, "lust at first sight." That doesn't mean that love can't come out of that lust though! So lust on!
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I love this post! Growing up, I used to believe in love at first sight. As I have gotten older, I have learned that the idea is pretty superficial. I think there is a very big different between love and infatuation, which can often be mistaken for love at first sight. I think you made some very interesting points in this blog and agree that perhaps the media should portray this idea in a different way.
ReplyDeleteAhhhh I love this post because you related it to Disney. I have always told my parents that Disney gave me unrealistic expectations for men. I find it so odd that the media never really does allow a relationship to build on itself. Every couple on television automatically falls in love regardless if they have known each other for a few minutes or an entire episode. I think the media makes it really hard for females to find true love because I think we are all looking for that instant heart-skips-a-beat moment that we are told we are supposed to have when we find the man of our dreams.
ReplyDeleteI was watching a show over the weekend that was geared towards love and how people deal with certain relationships and various love related circumstances. It told that on average people have to meet around 60ish partners( not necessarily sexual) before they meet the right person for them. It also said that our body's are attracted to eachother before our minds even know it. I don't know if I believe it but maybe there is a little truth behind love at first sight.
ReplyDeleteAs soon as I read this post I thought of a scene from the movie, Runaway Bride, with Julia Roberts and Richard Gere. They are talking about this very topic: love at first site. Richard Gere says, "I think attraction is mistaken for rightness." I completely agree with that line. To love someone means to be connected more emotionally and mentally. Attraction is just an initial reaction or instinct that is often thrown into the category of love.
ReplyDeleteYou're right, Lindsay. The media does play into this "love at first sight" idea, perhaps to make it seem more whimsical. And like the other comments, I have to agree that lust is often mistaken for love. It is an unrealistic idea that you can simply look at someone and know they are suppose to be your true love.